Wisdom for your Pre-teen: Mom Knowledge to Share with our Kids

We all love our kids. There is nothing we wouldn’t do for them. But as they get older it is more and more difficult to share our wisdom and knowledge with them. Especially in this age of technology when instant gratification is king. Our mom cards look very flimsy compared to what a friend saw on the internet. After all, if its on youtube it MUST be true. But the fact of the matter is, it usually isn’t.

Life gets rocky hen you hit those pre-teen years, and those come earlier and earlier now. But there are a few tips we can share that might prove to be very important.

  1. Keeping the communication open with our kids makes a difference. No matter what never shut down a conversation. Let them know that even if you do not know the answers, or if the subject makes you feel uncomfortable, you are there to help them. Because if they cannot come to us, they will go to the internet, or a friend. And we all know that it will not end well.
  2. The internet is FOREVER. Make sure they understand that once it is on the internet or in writing, it is there, and you CANNOT take it back. We also are more willing to put things in writing that we would never say out loud. Its the nature of text. In the “old days” we wrote in diaries and journals. The written word gives us anonymity, it gives us strength, and it eliminates fear. It gives us the freedom to say things we would never admit out loud. So when you talk with your pre-teen make sure they know that if they wouldn’t say it to someones face, they shouldn’t ¬†write it down. If it isn’t something they would be willing to have handed back to them in 15 years and read in front of someone important to them (mom, dad, a spouse, their own kids, etc.) then it isn’t something they should write.
  3. Even though our friends may be cheering for us to do something and it feels like we are being validated for it, that applause and validation can be misleading. Even if someone is cheering you on the actions can still be wrong, harmful, or dangerous. Think about how you would feel if you did this in front of a parent, sibling, or grandparent. Would you still hear cheering if they were watching? Is this something you will be proud of when someone IMPORTANT hears about it?
  4. Labels are not permanent. You may be a popular kid, you may be a nerd, but those things are just momentary. They do not carry with you. They are not your identity. You will grow, you will change, the things that are cool now will not be in a few months or years. Everything grows, changes, and shifts. Try not to allow those labels change who you know you are. You may be good at sports now, but when you grow you may lose strength, you may have an injury. Those things will change how you play, how you interact. But they will not change how you treat people, how you learn, how you are motivated, or how hard you work. Do not let those labels make you feel small. They will not be around forever.
  5. Do not ever put someone else down. Everyone has their chance to be on top, and everyone has their chance to be on the bottom. The world is a giant spinning wheel. Remember when you are on the top who helped you get there, and who is currently below you. ¬†Because one day they wheel will spin and you will not have control over how they treat you. Treat everyone well and when the wheel spins you won’t be fearful of the bottom.

 

Summer+Sun=Shades!

The sun is really bright during those hot summer months. The sun is actually closer to us in the summer, that is why the days are longer, the sun is hotter, and the rays are more dangerous. We all know it is important to protect our kids with hats, sunblock, and clothing with SPF and UPF protection. Did you also know that it is important to protect your kids eyes from the harsh rays of the sun?

A lot of people think that sunglasses just protect us from the glare of the sun, making it easier to see outside. But they also protect us from the harmful rays that can damage our eyes. This is an important issue amongst us all, not just adults. Sometimes we see kids with sunglasses on and we think, “oh how adorable” or “wow their parents must have money to burn.” But the fact is that they are a necessary tool for sun protection. While everyone likes to be stylish, they also serve a greater purpose.

Here at The Boy’s Store we worry about the well-being of our customers. So we are here to offer you items that will help you protect your boys from the suns harmful rays, including sunglasses. We even offer sunglasses that are easy on the budget.

Boys’ Rockabilly Sunglasses by Appaman: These boys wayfarer glasses are incredibly cool looking, but they also offer 100% UV protection with UV400 protection. So not only are they stylish and cool, they also protect; the best feature of all is they are only $9.

Teeny Tiny Optics “Joe” Boys Sunglasses: These wrap around sun shades offer 100% UV protection to our younger boys. Ages 2-4 will find this especially useful. They are only $9 and they will help protect them all summer long.

Boys’ Keith Sunglasses by Teeny Tiny Optics: This cool flame shades feature cool graphics but they also feature 100% protection from UV rays. They are also impact resistant, because, well, BOYS. At only $9 they are truly a steal.

Backyard Camping

Summer is a great time to unplug and unwind. The days are long, the nights are short, and so is our time with our kids. It can be difficult to find activities that do not cost a lot of money, especially when we consider how long the summer beak lasts. Thats why it is great to find fun outdoor activities that do not cost money, but they still give us the chance to get outside and interact with our kids.

Backyard camping is a fun and inexpensive activity for the summer. You can create a world of adventure with just a few items.

Tent

blankets or sleeping bags

food

campfire or firepit

flashlights

With just a few items you can create a world of enchantment. Tell stories around the fire, share a meal, a treat, and enjoy each others company. Leave all of the devices in the house and enjoy your time together without the distractions of modern life.

Looking for something sweet for your treat? Check out this amazing idea for amores from Butter With a Side of Bread. You will not be disappointed.