Category Archives: Health

Before you speak, THINK: Back to School and Bullying

Many of our kids are back at school this month. This means they are back to the daily grind of making friends, doing math, reading, playing, and in some cases interacting with bullies. Now not everyone deals with bullying head on. Some kids are being bullied, some kids are witnessing someone being bullied, and some kids are the bully.

We are not here to judge. Kids are human. They have bad days, bad weeks, and bad lives. They are immature, uneducated, and in many cases being guided improperly or not at all. So it is understandable that bullying exists in their world. It is a part of learning how to deal with emotions, other people, and the world around them. Now when it exists into adulthood is when it is an obvious problem, and in many cases a choice or lifestyle.

In many cases with kids it can be helped, or prevented. As parents we can make our kids aware of the damage caused by bullying. The damage it causes to the victim and the bully, and to the people around them. Bullying come sin many forms, physical, emotional, and cyber are the main ones in childhood. Girls tend to stick to gossip, rumors, and leaving other people out. In today’s world this can happen in person at school, sports, activities, neighborhoods, and on the internet. However, girls are perpetrators of physical bullying as well. Boys tend to be more physical than emotional, but can use both. Combating bullying can be difficult. One of the major ways it has been found to be effectively dealt with though is addressing it before it starts. This means making sure all kids understand the results of their behavior and treatment of others.

Teachers Pay Teachers has an excellent tool for kids to address their actions before they do or say something. THINK. 

This little acronym addresses the things you should consider before saying or doing something. It is a quick reminder to THINK before you speak.

If you have a student going back to school, or you are a teacher preparing a classroom try printing or ordering this little sign. It is an excellent reminder to try to be kind and not hurt others, even if we don’t mean to hurt them.

Here at The Boy’s Store we hope that everyone has a safe and fun new year at school, and that everyone THINK’s before they speak! Enjoy!

Teaching Kids About Emotions: What They Can Control

I have a worrier. I should have expected it, after all, I am a worrier. To be exact, I have Anxiety Disorder. You would think that I could understand my child more, because I too suffer from this issue. But would you believe me when I say that it actually makes it much worse? I know why they feel this way, but since I have no control over my own emotions, fears, and anxieties I have no idea how to help the, deal with theirs. It is a terrible feeling being unable to help your child get deal with something you cannot even deal with.

Since my kids are returning to school soon, I wanted to help my worrier be ready and find some ways to deal with things. I found this really helpful teacher set from Teachers Pay Teachers. It is meant to help teachers show their students how to deal with emotions in the classroom, but I have found it to be a very helpful tool at home as well.

I ordered the digital version and printed it out at home. we put it in the bedroom and it has helped my worrier to visualize what they can and cannot control in their world. We look at it when we are in the midst of an anxiety episode. We see what we can control, and remind ourselves what is outside of our control. We talk about what we can go do instead to ease our worry, we even made a list of ways that we love to ease our fears and anxieties. Now we are on our way to helping one another deal with our overly active emotions.

Why am I an Angry Mom: An Article that has given me PEACE

As parents we expect a lot of our kids, but perhaps it isn’t our kids we are expecting a lot from. It’s us. I don’t know about you but I did not get a manual when I brought my first kid home. And it just got more complicated as we brought home more kids. I love my children, and I have taken parenting classes, read books, and I try so very hard to be perfect for them. But EVERY kid is different, and nothing can truly prepare you for it ALL.

I recently came across this blog, A Mother Far From Home. It featured an article entitled “Why Am I an Angry Mom?” I never thought of myself as an angry mom. I do have a short temper, and I have very active and busy kids. So when it gets to be too much I have noticed — I yell. I had a Dad that yelled, and I remember flinching when he was mad. His voice was so loud and he seemed so mad I thought he was mad at me. It wasn’t until I yelled when my daughter dropped something in the kitchen (cheerios people, everywhere) and saw her flinch that I realized what I had viewed as my Dad being mad at me was just him being annoyed that there was more work to do. So I took a step back. And when I saw this article I realized that I wasn’t alone in my reactions. But perhaps, with a little help, I could find a new way to react.

I’m not saying I am perfect now, and I am not saying you will be either. But I am saying it has helped me to recognize when I need to step back and react differently. I hope that it helps some of you too!