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Self Care During the Holiday’s: Stress Less

The holidays can indeed be stressful. We try so hard to make everything perfect that we run ourselves ragged. It is only December 7th and I have already found myself taking on too much for the holiday season. Why do we try to be overachievers? Why do we try to do so much when we know it will only wipe us out? Well, this year let us all make a pact to avoid stressing ourselves out. In fact, here is a list of things we should remember when we are asked to help with something or we think we should just do one more thing to make the season great.

      1. Set boundaries! It is ok to say NO! We do not need to volunteer for everything, we o not need to bake cookies, cupcakes, gingerbread houses, and make bread and meals from scratch just because it is the holiday season. Our kids do not need everything to be perfect. We have the ability to make things special without making them more work. Pick one or two special things you want to do this holiday season. Set aside time for it, enjoy it, and tell everyone you are not available to do anything else!
      2. Self-Care! Self-care is very important during the holidays. We matter too! Take a walk, get in a workout, go out for coffee with a friend, take a nap, do something for YOU. We stretch ourselves thin all year long and even more so during the holidays. So take a few moments to yourself this season. Carve out time for something you enjoy, and do not let anyone guilt you for it. Remember, when you are on the airplane and they are giving safety instructions they tell you to apply your own oxygen mask before your child’s? This is the same principle you should apply now. You cannot take care of anyone else until you have taken care of yourself. You cannot refill someone’s cup from an empty cup of your own. Make the time.
      3. Try not to make everything perfect. Nothing will take up your time more than trying to make the holiday season perfect. You will be so busy working to attain perfection that you will miss out on the beauty of the imperfections. Take a hint from Charlie Brown. Life is beautiful if you just slow down and see the deeper meaning. Don’t get caught up in the commercialism and the grandeur. Find the beauty in the small moments, and enjoy them as long as you can.

We hope you have a great holiday season. We want everyone to stay safe and enjoy the small things.

Manners: What’s Important to You as a Parent?

As parents, we have our make or break topics. One of mine is manners. My kid doesn’t have to be the smartest in his class, they don’t have to be the best player on their team, but by golly they better have the best manners wherever they go.

I try to model good behavior. So I say please, thank you, you’re welcome, etc. Also, I smile when I speak to someone. I try not to be mean to customer service people, and if I see someone in need of help (a door that could be opened, a hand that can be offered, I do my best). I want my children to do the same. The world is such a large and busy place, but with just a smile, and a little politeness it doesn’t seem quite so frightening. Now I am not expecting my children to help a stranger, they know there are limits because of safety. However, when they see a teacher at school struggling with their books opening the classroom door, or a fellow student unable to zip their backpack, I have noticed them helping. What warms my heart the most? When they help their siblings, without being prompted.

So what is so great about manners? They aren’t much when you think in the grand scheme of things. But we have all seen those commercials where one small good deed sets of a string of good deeds, that can eventually change someone’s entire day, or their entire life. It is the small things that make the big things happen. So I try very hard to incorporate manners in to my life, and my children’s lives.

Manners are simple little things to add in to our daily lives. So take a look at some of the ways KidsTime describes manners. Do you and your family practice any manners that you think should be added?

KidsTime Manners ChartGood Manners