Listening. That almost seems like a mom’s wishlist. It can be difficult, nay impossible sometimes to get your kids to pay attention to you, let alone actually listen and hear what you want them to do. With young kids I find it is even more difficult. My toddler is especially hard, but my 5 year old who usually listens well has recently begun regressing in the “paying attention” area.
Every child is different and it can be so hard to find what works fro every child. What works for one of my kids does not work for another one of my kids. So I have learned to pick and choose my battles and to pay attention to my child’s specific needs.
Another tool I have found useful is changing the way I speak and listen as well. As an adult I don’t enjoy being told what to do, I like being told why I am doing something. So when I speak to my children I try to remember they are not inferior, they are not robots, they are people. They also happen to be smaller versions of me. So I keep in mind my own temperament when I try to address issues with them.
All of this can be hard to do when you are pressed for time, tired, or frustrated yourself. So Let’s remember to take a step-back and breathe. There are some fabulous strategies and tips on Youtube from Child Specialists. Try checking them out as well and adding what works for you and your family.
Here are a few great Youtube Channels: