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Before you speak, THINK: Back to School and Bullying

Many of our kids are back at school this month. This means they are back to the daily grind of making friends, doing math, reading, playing, and in some cases interacting with bullies. Now not everyone deals with bullying head on. Some kids are being bullied, some kids are witnessing someone being bullied, and some kids are the bully.

We are not here to judge. Kids are human. They have bad days, bad weeks, and bad lives. They are immature, uneducated, and in many cases being guided improperly or not at all. So it is understandable that bullying exists in their world. It is a part of learning how to deal with emotions, other people, and the world around them. Now when it exists into adulthood is when it is an obvious problem, and in many cases a choice or lifestyle.

In many cases with kids it can be helped, or prevented. As parents we can make our kids aware of the damage caused by bullying. The damage it causes to the victim and the bully, and to the people around them. Bullying come sin many forms, physical, emotional, and cyber are the main ones in childhood. Girls tend to stick to gossip, rumors, and leaving other people out. In today’s world this can happen in person at school, sports, activities, neighborhoods, and on the internet. However, girls are perpetrators of physical bullying as well. Boys tend to be more physical than emotional, but can use both. Combating bullying can be difficult. One of the major ways it has been found to be effectively dealt with though is addressing it before it starts. This means making sure all kids understand the results of their behavior and treatment of others.

Teachers Pay Teachers has an excellent tool for kids to address their actions before they do or say something. THINK. 

This little acronym addresses the things you should consider before saying or doing something. It is a quick reminder to THINK before you speak.

If you have a student going back to school, or you are a teacher preparing a classroom try printing or ordering this little sign. It is an excellent reminder to try to be kind and not hurt others, even if we don’t mean to hurt them.

Here at The Boy’s Store we hope that everyone has a safe and fun new year at school, and that everyone THINK’s before they speak! Enjoy!

Effective Parenting

If you are anything like me, which I can bet you are, you are always looking to improve. Whether you are looking to improve mentally, physically, emotionally, or in this case — as a parent. My children will be home for summer break in a few short weeks, and by weeks I mean TWO. Since I am fortunate enough to run a small-business and a non-profit I am home most of the summer in order to be with them and avoid using child-care, I just work from home. I am also fortunate enough to bring my children in to work with me. However, just like every other parent in the world my children get bored, they act out, they are loud — after all, they are CHILDREN.

I know that this behavior is normal, but thee are ways to combat them. During the summer when I am home with them I try to be understanding of all of this, and their inability to completely handle and express their emotions and frustrations. But it can be hard for me too. I am busy, I am still working even though they are home to play. Tensions can run high for all of us. So every year I try to do a small “brush-up” on child development, I try to learn a few coping mechanisms to get us through with minimal blow-ups. effective parenting

This year I found this little reminder. I wanted to share it with all of you in case you too need a little reminder sometimes in order to get by. This summer I plan to utilize some of these. I know that there will still be hard days, but that doesn’t make them bad days. See I am already being optimistic!

Why am I an Angry Mom: An Article that has given me PEACE

As parents we expect a lot of our kids, but perhaps it isn’t our kids we are expecting a lot from. It’s us. I don’t know about you but I did not get a manual when I brought my first kid home. And it just got more complicated as we brought home more kids. I love my children, and I have taken parenting classes, read books, and I try so very hard to be perfect for them. But EVERY kid is different, and nothing can truly prepare you for it ALL.

I recently came across this blog, A Mother Far From Home. It featured an article entitled “Why Am I an Angry Mom?” I never thought of myself as an angry mom. I do have a short temper, and I have very active and busy kids. So when it gets to be too much I have noticed — I yell. I had a Dad that yelled, and I remember flinching when he was mad. His voice was so loud and he seemed so mad I thought he was mad at me. It wasn’t until I yelled when my daughter dropped something in the kitchen (cheerios people, everywhere) and saw her flinch that I realized what I had viewed as my Dad being mad at me was just him being annoyed that there was more work to do. So I took a step back. And when I saw this article I realized that I wasn’t alone in my reactions. But perhaps, with a little help, I could find a new way to react.

I’m not saying I am perfect now, and I am not saying you will be either. But I am saying it has helped me to recognize when I need to step back and react differently. I hope that it helps some of you too!