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Effective Parenting

If you are anything like me, which I can bet you are, you are always looking to improve. Whether you are looking to improve mentally, physically, emotionally, or in this case — as a parent. My children will be home for summer break in a few short weeks, and by weeks I mean TWO. Since I am fortunate enough to run a small-business and a non-profit I am home most of the summer in order to be with them and avoid using child-care, I just work from home. I am also fortunate enough to bring my children in to work with me. However, just like every other parent in the world my children get bored, they act out, they are loud — after all, they are CHILDREN.

I know that this behavior is normal, but thee are ways to combat them. During the summer when I am home with them I try to be understanding of all of this, and their inability to completely handle and express their emotions and frustrations. But it can be hard for me too. I am busy, I am still working even though they are home to play. Tensions can run high for all of us. So every year I try to do a small “brush-up” on child development, I try to learn a few coping mechanisms to get us through with minimal blow-ups. 

This year I found this little reminder. I wanted to share it with all of you in case you too need a little reminder sometimes in order to get by. This summer I plan to utilize some of these. I know that there will still be hard days, but that doesn’t make them bad days. See I am already being optimistic!

Why am I an Angry Mom: An Article that has given me PEACE

As parents we expect a lot of our kids, but perhaps it isn’t our kids we are expecting a lot from. It’s us. I don’t know about you but I did not get a manual when I brought my first kid home. And it just got more complicated as we brought home more kids. I love my children, and I have taken parenting classes, read books, and I try so very hard to be perfect for them. But EVERY kid is different, and nothing can truly prepare you for it ALL.

I recently came across this blog, A Mother Far From Home. It featured an article entitled “Why Am I an Angry Mom?” I never thought of myself as an angry mom. I do have a short temper, and I have very active and busy kids. So when it gets to be too much I have noticed — I yell. I had a Dad that yelled, and I remember flinching when he was mad. His voice was so loud and he seemed so mad I thought he was mad at me. It wasn’t until I yelled when my daughter dropped something in the kitchen (cheerios people, everywhere) and saw her flinch that I realized what I had viewed as my Dad being mad at me was just him being annoyed that there was more work to do. So I took a step back. And when I saw this article I realized that I wasn’t alone in my reactions. But perhaps, with a little help, I could find a new way to react.

I’m not saying I am perfect now, and I am not saying you will be either. But I am saying it has helped me to recognize when I need to step back and react differently. I hope that it helps some of you too!

Self Care During the Holiday’s: Stress Less

The holidays can indeed be stressful. We try so hard to make everything perfect that we run ourselves ragged. It is only December 7th and I have already found myself taking on too much for the holiday season. Why do we try to be overachievers? Why do we try to do so much when we know it will only wipe us out? Well, this year let us all make a pact to avoid stressing ourselves out. In fact, here is a list of things we should remember when we are asked to help with something or we think we should just do one more thing to make the season great.

      1. Set boundaries! It is ok to say NO! We do not need to volunteer for everything, we o not need to bake cookies, cupcakes, gingerbread houses, and make bread and meals from scratch just because it is the holiday season. Our kids do not need everything to be perfect. We have the ability to make things special without making them more work. Pick one or two special things you want to do this holiday season. Set aside time for it, enjoy it, and tell everyone you are not available to do anything else!
      2. Self-Care! Self-care is very important during the holidays. We matter too! Take a walk, get in a workout, go out for coffee with a friend, take a nap, do something for YOU. We stretch ourselves thin all year long and even more so during the holidays. So take a few moments to yourself this season. Carve out time for something you enjoy, and do not let anyone guilt you for it. Remember, when you are on the airplane and they are giving safety instructions they tell you to apply your own oxygen mask before your child’s? This is the same principle you should apply now. You cannot take care of anyone else until you have taken care of yourself. You cannot refill someone’s cup from an empty cup of your own. Make the time.
      3. Try not to make everything perfect. Nothing will take up your time more than trying to make the holiday season perfect. You will be so busy working to attain perfection that you will miss out on the beauty of the imperfections. Take a hint from Charlie Brown. Life is beautiful if you just slow down and see the deeper meaning. Don’t get caught up in the commercialism and the grandeur. Find the beauty in the small moments, and enjoy them as long as you can.

We hope you have a great holiday season. We want everyone to stay safe and enjoy the small things.