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Wisdom for your Pre-teen: Mom Knowledge to Share with our Kids

We all love our kids. There is nothing we wouldn’t do for them. But as they get older it is more and more difficult to share our wisdom and knowledge with them. Especially in this age of technology when instant gratification is king. Our mom cards look very flimsy compared to what a friend saw on the internet. After all, if its on youtube it MUST be true. But the fact of the matter is, it usually isn’t.

Life gets rocky hen you hit those pre-teen years, and those come earlier and earlier now. But there are a few tips we can share that might prove to be very important.

  1. Keeping the communication open with our kids makes a difference. No matter what never shut down a conversation. Let them know that even if you do not know the answers, or if the subject makes you feel uncomfortable, you are there to help them. Because if they cannot come to us, they will go to the internet, or a friend. And we all know that it will not end well.
  2. The internet is FOREVER. Make sure they understand that once it is on the internet or in writing, it is there, and you CANNOT take it back. We also are more willing to put things in writing that we would never say out loud. Its the nature of text. In the “old days” we wrote in diaries and journals. The written word gives us anonymity, it gives us strength, and it eliminates fear. It gives us the freedom to say things we would never admit out loud. So when you talk with your pre-teen make sure they know that if they wouldn’t say it to someones face, they shouldn’t ¬†write it down. If it isn’t something they would be willing to have handed back to them in 15 years and read in front of someone important to them (mom, dad, a spouse, their own kids, etc.) then it isn’t something they should write.
  3. Even though our friends may be cheering for us to do something and it feels like we are being validated for it, that applause and validation can be misleading. Even if someone is cheering you on the actions can still be wrong, harmful, or dangerous. Think about how you would feel if you did this in front of a parent, sibling, or grandparent. Would you still hear cheering if they were watching? Is this something you will be proud of when someone IMPORTANT hears about it?
  4. Labels are not permanent. You may be a popular kid, you may be a nerd, but those things are just momentary. They do not carry with you. They are not your identity. You will grow, you will change, the things that are cool now will not be in a few months or years. Everything grows, changes, and shifts. Try not to allow those labels change who you know you are. You may be good at sports now, but when you grow you may lose strength, you may have an injury. Those things will change how you play, how you interact. But they will not change how you treat people, how you learn, how you are motivated, or how hard you work. Do not let those labels make you feel small. They will not be around forever.
  5. Do not ever put someone else down. Everyone has their chance to be on top, and everyone has their chance to be on the bottom. The world is a giant spinning wheel. Remember when you are on the top who helped you get there, and who is currently below you. ¬†Because one day they wheel will spin and you will not have control over how they treat you. Treat everyone well and when the wheel spins you won’t be fearful of the bottom.

 

Painted Rocks: Fourth of July Edition

Have you heard of the new fun activity that is becoming very popular amongst kids and parents? Painted rocks. This creative activity began as a fun way to interact with kids on a global level. This rock painting and hiding phenomenon was a way to get kids outdoors and spreading joy and kindness. Kids and parents go outdoors and find rocks, paint them with any fun, imaginative images, patterns, etc. Then they take the rock with them as they run errands around town. They find a unique place outside to leave the rock for someone else to find, and in turn they stay on the “lookout” for fun rocks of their own.

The rock hiding phenomenon has reached far and wide already. Rocks are being hidden and found all over including Jacksonville, North Carolina; Weymouth, Canada; and Redding, California. The rocks are bringing smiles to face everywhere.

Here in southern California you can find the rocks at parks, outside of grocery stores, and at local swimming pools. We have been excited to get in on the rock painting fun. So this weekend we decided to create some holiday inspired rocks, Fourth of July firework rocks. My kids loved painting the rocks. Even my youngest was excited to join in. We hid some at the fountain at the mall, one at the community pool for swim lessons, one at the fireworks event, and one at our neighborhood park. Where will you hide your rocks?

Helping Kids Deal with Stress: Yoga for Kids

It may sound silly, but stress can affect our children too. You may laugh, after all, how can someone who has no real responsibilities be affected by stress? Our kids may be small but they absorb the world around them in very large amounts. They are after all little sponges. The difficult part about their absorbing so much is that they absorb what they cannot understand, and they do not know how to deal with the things they absorb. It can be overwhelming. It can be overwhelming for adults, imagine how it feels for a child. We can help with their stress levels by giving them tools to deal with their stress. Activity, conversation, and eating well will all help with that.

One great activity to aid in stress relief is Yoga. Yoga teaches breathing methods that aid in healing the body, and stretches that can relieve tension and build muscle. The greatest thing about Yoga is that you do not have to join a gym or class to participate. You can do it anywhere, anytime.

Here are a few great Yoga poses that are perfect for young children. Try them with your kids, after all, kids are sponges. If they see you doing them they will try them as well. By instilling these modes of stress relief now we could aid our children in becoming better equipped to handle stress in the future. Which also will aid us to handle stress better. Give it a try, it might just change your outlook.