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Wisdom for your Preteen: Mom Knowledge to Share with our Kids

We all love our kids. There is nothing we wouldn’t do for them. But as they get older it is more and more difficult to share our wisdom and knowledge with them. Especially in this age of technology when instant gratification is king. Our mom cards look very flimsy compared to what a friend saw on the internet. After all, if it’s on youtube it MUST be true. But the fact of the matter is, it usually isn’t.

Life gets rocky when you hit those preteen years, and those come earlier and earlier now. But there are a few tips we can share that might prove to be very important.

  1. Keeping the communication open with our kids makes a difference. No matter what never shut down a conversation. Let them know that even if you do not know the answers, or if the subject makes you feel uncomfortable, you are there to help them. Because if they cannot come to us, they will go to the internet or a friend. And we all know that it will not end well.
  2. The internet is FOREVER. Make sure they understand that once it is on the internet or in writing, it is there, and you CANNOT take it back. We also are more willing to put things in writing that we would never say out loud. It’s the nature of text. In the “old days”, we wrote in diaries and journals. The written word gives us anonymity, it gives us strength, and it eliminates fear. It gives us the freedom to say things we would never admit out loud. So when you talk with your pre-teen make sure they know that if they wouldn’t say it to someones face, they shouldn’t ¬†write it down. If it isn’t something they would be willing to have handed back to them in 15 years and read in front of someone important to them (mom, dad, a spouse, their own kids, etc.) then it isn’t something they should write.
  3. Even though our friends may be cheering for us to do something and it feels like we are being validated for it, that applause and validation can be misleading. Even if someone is cheering you on the actions can still be wrong, harmful, or dangerous. Think about how you would feel if you did this in front of a parent, sibling, or grandparent. Would you still hear cheering if they were watching? Is this something you will be proud of when someone IMPORTANT hears about it?
  4. Labels are not permanent. You may be a popular kid, you may be a nerd, but those things are just momentary. They do not carry with you. They are not your identity. You will grow, you will change, the things that are cool now will not be in a few months or years. Everything grows, changes, and shifts. Try not to allow those labels change who you know you are. You may be good at sports now, but when you grow you may lose strength, you may have an injury. Those things will change how you play, how you interact. But they will not change how you treat people, how you learn, how you are motivated, or how hard you work. Do not let those labels make you feel small. They will not be around forever.
  5. Do not ever put someone else down. Everyone has their chance to be on top, and everyone has their chance to be on the bottom. The world is a giant spinning wheel. Remember when you are on the top who helped you get there, and who is currently below you. ¬†Because one day they wheel will spin and you will not have control over how they treat you. Treat everyone well and when the wheel spins you won’t be fearful of the bottom.

Shoe Tying: How to Teach Kids to Tie

In our house we have recently begun working on learning to tie our shoes. It has been so long since I have had to teach anyone how to tie their shoes. I forgot how complicated it can be. There are so many different ideas for teaching, there are even different methods for tying. Which ones work best? Which ones are the easiest for a small child to get? It can be difficult to even approach. So of course what does a mom do? Pinterest.

I love my Pinterest page. I have so many ideas, so many little categories, but my favorite is my folder for my kids. I can pin things that will help me to help them. Pinterest is like Google for mommies. Everything you could ever think of is available.

When I typed in shoe tying I found thousands of pins with ideas on the subject. I chose a few of my favorites and began prepping my tools so that we could approach our first lesson. I fell in love with three different teaching methods, I loved them so much I have to share them with you. Moms need to stick together.

Here are a few tools:

Mom Advice: A New Shoe Tying Method: This method was so helpful. It even shares a little video so that I can watch it with my kids. We loved the visual.

Show Tying

One Crafty Place: Teach Your Child to Tie: This method was helpful because it gave us the tutorial and taught us how to create our own little shoe tying practice board. This added tool made it so much easier to help our kids practice everyday.

Shoe Tying Cards

Tools to Grow: Printable Template for Tying: This great resource actually included a template that allowed us to print a practice board.

Shoe Tying Template

We used a combination of these three to help teach our little ones to tie. The three tiered approach seemed to work. After a few weeks of trying, practicing, and helping we have officially left our velcro shoes in the closet for good!