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The Great Screen Debate

How many moms and dads out there let their kids watch TV? Who lets their kids play on the computer? The iPad or tablet? Video Games? The great screen debate has become a huge topic amongst parents far and wide. Why? Because m,any studies show that increased screen time can decrease a child’s sleep time, reduce their creative and independent thought processes, and decrease their attention span. So what is your spin on the screen debate?

In our house we do have all of the above. As a blogger, teacher, and Grad student I have an iPhone, iPad, and computer. My husband plays video games occasionally, but as a technology buff and specialist his favorite “toy” is his home theater with its 118 inch screen and quality sound system. Of course our kids enjoy watching movies and TV shows int here, who wouldn’t? But we try to limit their exposure to the screen in all forms to just a few hours a day.

Of course there are days that they spend way more time than others in front of the screen. This last week we were all sick, and spent the entire day on the couch curled in blankets with tissues watching cartoons together. But is this a daily occurrence? No. Our children are too young to have their own cell phones, but they do have old phones of ours that hold learning apps, books, and games they can play while we travel or if we are out somewhere and they need to keep busy (ie long lines at the bank, doctor office, etc.)

We have friends who do not allow their kids to watch TV at all. We think that’s great, but we love TV ourselves and just cannot tell them they cannot do something and we can. We respect our friends choice to keep their kids from watching TV, and do not allow their kids to watch at our house unless their parents have given us the OK.

So now let’s take a poll, how many parents actually let their kids watch TV? How many hours a day? Whose child has a cell phone? How old are they? Do you let your kids play with a tablet/computer/video game system? Why or why not?

Toddler Moments: The Threenager

All parents know what I am talking about. You have all at one point tried to control or deal with a toddler. Its an inevitable stage in development. We cannot avoid it. Everyone warns us about the terrible twos, and the terrible teenager years. But no one warns you about the terrible threes. You escape the twos pretty much unscathed and think, I have made it! I’m free. It wasn’t that terrible, my kid must be the easiest two year old ever! Then you hit three and the Terrible Threenager emerges.

We skipped the terrible twos. I think that my two year old plotted to make three even worse. I like to call this the threenager stage because the fights all seem to be about control, being in charge , and being independent. I can see their teenage years looming ahead and think good god I can’t go through it again! But I will try to find a way to make it through, after all, what other option is there? Threenagers like to exert their own willpower, they like to think they are in control of everything we do. And they think everything is theirs by right. We have spent our week fighting over the power, but in the end we have found the best way to deal has been to give them small moments of power and control. We are slowly tricking them in to thinking they have the power (even though we never give it up). Options are our best ally. Would you like to eat chicken or beef for dinner? What outfit looks best for school today? This or that? limited options work best.

What coping mechanisms do you use to get through the day with your toddler?

Who else can relate to this moment?

The Threenager