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Effective Parenting

If you are anything like me, which I can bet you are, you are always looking to improve. Whether you are looking to improve mentally, physically, emotionally, or in this case — as a parent. My children will be home for summer break in a few short weeks, and by weeks I mean TWO. Since I am fortunate enough to run a small-business and a non-profit I am home most of the summer in order to be with them and avoid using child-care, I just work from home. I am also fortunate enough to bring my children in to work with me. However, just like every other parent in the world my children get bored, they act out, they are loud — after all, they are CHILDREN.

I know that this behavior is normal, but thee are ways to combat them. During the summer when I am home with them I try to be understanding of all of this, and their inability to completely handle and express their emotions and frustrations. But it can be hard for me too. I am busy, I am still working even though they are home to play. Tensions can run high for all of us. So every year I try to do a small “brush-up” on child development, I try to learn a few coping mechanisms to get us through with minimal blow-ups. effective parenting

This year I found this little reminder. I wanted to share it with all of you in case you too need a little reminder sometimes in order to get by. This summer I plan to utilize some of these. I know that there will still be hard days, but that doesn’t make them bad days. See I am already being optimistic!

Toddler Moments: The Threenager

All parents know what I am talking about. You have all at one point tried to control or deal with a toddler. Its an inevitable stage in development. We cannot avoid it. Everyone warns us about the terrible twos, and the terrible teenager years. But no one warns you about the terrible threes. You escape the twos pretty much unscathed and think, I have made it! I’m free. It wasn’t that terrible, my kid must be the easiest two year old ever! Then you hit three and the Terrible Threenager emerges.

We skipped the terrible twos. I think that my two year old plotted to make three even worse. I like to call this the threenager stage because the fights all seem to be about control, being in charge , and being independent. I can see their teenage years looming ahead and think good god I can’t go through it again! But I will try to find a way to make it through, after all, what other option is there? Threenagers like to exert their own willpower, they like to think they are in control of everything we do. And they think everything is theirs by right. We have spent our week fighting over the power, but in the end we have found the best way to deal has been to give them small moments of power and control. We are slowly tricking them in to thinking they have the power (even though we never give it up). Options are our best ally. Would you like to eat chicken or beef for dinner? What outfit looks best for school today? This or that? limited options work best.

What coping mechanisms do you use to get through the day with your toddler?

Who else can relate to this moment?

The Threenager

Spring Has Sprung: Get Out For Some Fun

Mom’s all around the world are praising mother nature. Spring has sprung and the world is ready for all the little boys to return to their playgrounds and run wild and free. No more hearing, “I’m bored, there’s nothing to do in here.” Now is the time when Mom’s all over can reply with, “go outside and play!” It is a magical time. We all get our houses back, with few toys to step on underfoot, and our kids get outside for some much needed sun, fun, and fresh air. It is also the time that Mom’s break out the good laundry detergent, because let’s face it getting grass stains out is hard work. But let’s not worry about that right now, let’s think about all the great ways that we can get our boys outside and active this spring and The Boy’s Store has some great ideas for getting your boys outside and having fun.

We love our boys and we want them to be well-rounded intelligent little gentleman, and that takes time, effort, and knowledge. While parents tend to know what is right for their kids they do not always know how to approach new ways of learning with their kids, it can be difficult to teach every subject in a way that your child understands. Writer Judy Molland’s book “Get Out!” is a great learning tool for parents. It can help even the most intelligent and intuitive parent find ways to make learning fun and worthwhile for their kids. Parents will learn ways to get their kids active without making it feel like a chore, ways to incorporate family activities in a way that makes them fun and not a chore, give parents tips on how to show their kids the world is a special place that needs to be taken care of in order to remain beautiful, teach kids how to care for their environment, make them the kind of people that will help to change the shape of the world. Continue reading