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Wisdom for your Preteen: Mom Knowledge to Share with our Kids

We all love our kids. There is nothing we wouldn’t do for them. But as they get older it is more and more difficult to share our wisdom and knowledge with them. Especially in this age of technology when instant gratification is king. Our mom cards look very flimsy compared to what a friend saw on the internet. After all, if it’s on youtube it MUST be true. But the fact of the matter is, it usually isn’t.

Life gets rocky when you hit those preteen years, and those come earlier and earlier now. But there are a few tips we can share that might prove to be very important.

  1. Keeping the communication open with our kids makes a difference. No matter what never shut down a conversation. Let them know that even if you do not know the answers, or if the subject makes you feel uncomfortable, you are there to help them. Because if they cannot come to us, they will go to the internet or a friend. And we all know that it will not end well.
  2. The internet is FOREVER. Make sure they understand that once it is on the internet or in writing, it is there, and you CANNOT take it back. We also are more willing to put things in writing that we would never say out loud. It’s the nature of text. In the “old days”, we wrote in diaries and journals. The written word gives us anonymity, it gives us strength, and it eliminates fear. It gives us the freedom to say things we would never admit out loud. So when you talk with your pre-teen make sure they know that if they wouldn’t say it to someones face, they shouldn’t  write it down. If it isn’t something they would be willing to have handed back to them in 15 years and read in front of someone important to them (mom, dad, a spouse, their own kids, etc.) then it isn’t something they should write.
  3. Even though our friends may be cheering for us to do something and it feels like we are being validated for it, that applause and validation can be misleading. Even if someone is cheering you on the actions can still be wrong, harmful, or dangerous. Think about how you would feel if you did this in front of a parent, sibling, or grandparent. Would you still hear cheering if they were watching? Is this something you will be proud of when someone IMPORTANT hears about it?
  4. Labels are not permanent. You may be a popular kid, you may be a nerd, but those things are just momentary. They do not carry with you. They are not your identity. You will grow, you will change, the things that are cool now will not be in a few months or years. Everything grows, changes, and shifts. Try not to allow those labels change who you know you are. You may be good at sports now, but when you grow you may lose strength, you may have an injury. Those things will change how you play, how you interact. But they will not change how you treat people, how you learn, how you are motivated, or how hard you work. Do not let those labels make you feel small. They will not be around forever.
  5. Do not ever put someone else down. Everyone has their chance to be on top, and everyone has their chance to be on the bottom. The world is a giant spinning wheel. Remember when you are on the top who helped you get there, and who is currently below you.  Because one day they wheel will spin and you will not have control over how they treat you. Treat everyone well and when the wheel spins you won’t be fearful of the bottom.

Traveling With Kids: Tips for Travel With Young Kids

When we were growing up we did a lot of family vacations. In the early days, we did a lot of camping, we went to lakes, the beach, and some national parks. I still have a very vivid memory of driving through a Redwood tree. As we got older we went to more places and stayed in hotels, mostly we traveled by car because flying with 3 or 4 kids (depending on if our older brother stayed home or went with us) was expensive for my folks. We flew occasionally, especially if the trip was far away. But since there were so many of us it tended to get crazy.

I knew when I began my own family that I wanted my kids to experience life, to have more great memories than great toys. So we decided early on to gift experiences as well as “stuff.” We discovered that our kids were just as excited to go to new places as they were to get things. Of course, we always do a little souvenir at each place we visit, but it is usually something small and aligns more with memorabilia than toys.

traveling with kids

We make sure to use a travel agent when we plan big trips that include plane-fare, hotel stays, and rental cars. You might think no that it is cheaper to find your own deal, but when it comes down to it the agents find better deals because hotels and airlines make package deals with them and each agent has a reward account with one or more hotels and airlines. We also maintain a rewards credit card that earns us travel points. That way when we use it we earn more rewards.

As far as traveling with small children you might be surprised how easy it really is. Most airlines allow for one free car seat and one free stroller check per person. So you do not even have to pay extra to bring them. Children under two can fly on a parents lap for free. And as long as you prepare flying with kids can be fairly uneventful. pack lots of snacks, toys, coloring books, and bring headphones for over their ears. Airlines usually have entertainment centers with games, music, and movies available for free now. They even stock kids favorites, including tv shows, and new release movies. However, airlines only give out earbuds for free. So if you want a small child to enjoy the sound bring good headphones.

Try to get a window seat, that way kids can watch outside during takeoff and landing. Also, try to make sure kids are snacking or chewing gum during takeoff and landing. It helps alleviate the pressure in their ears. Moms who breastfeed can even nurse their baby or toddler during those times, it too helps with pressure.

You know your child best, you know their schedule and routine, and their fussiness factors. We have discovered our kids fly best mid-morning or just after dinner. That way they nap or sleep throughout the flight with small windows of wake-fullness. So think about what times are best for you and your kids. When you fly with kids try to make sure you arrive at the airport more than two hours ahead. Traveling with car seats and strollers means checking them into bulky and oversize baggage check which means standing in line, you cannot do self-check.  So allow for extra time.

Travelling is fun, it can be stressful but it is also very rewarding. So don’t be afraid to travel with kids.