Parenting can be hard. We try so hard to be the best, be the ones to be that model parent you see on television. But it doesn’t always go that way. We aren’t all super parents, we cannot be perfect. We are human. I have had a hard time coming to terms with that. As a busy mom I find myself sometimes trying to do it all and then berating myself, and my kids, when it doesn’t go the way I imagine it going. So here I am ready to share my story. I am a mom, and I yell.
My father was a “yeller” when I was a kid. My mother was not. She always had this calm manner about her, even when disciplining us. I thought that was incredible. I thought that would be me. But I did not take after my mother, I too after my father. I yelled at my daughter in front of a friend one day, and she told me about a book that had helped her stop yelling at her kids. I was intrigued. So I picked one up, Yell Less, Love More: How the Orange Rhino Mom Stopped Yelling at Her kids and How you Can Too! Yell less, love more and its 30-day guide was going to be my lifesaver. I am now 10 days in going strong. But let me tell you. It has been way more than 10 days.
The author Sheila McCraith shares her own story of being a “yeller” she also gives incredibly useful tips (and some incredibly not useful ones at least for me) for keeping that yelling voice at bay. She recommends starting over every time you slip and yell. I have, three times. But each time I have gone a little further without yelling. I have discovered that not yelling is mostly about me, it is about how calm and ready I am to handle my day, my kids, and my own temper.
My kids do not provoke me. I am escalating my own anger. It can be escalated by impatience and a bad day, but that is not my children’s fault. So why should I let them bear the brunt of my frustrations? Sheila is helping me to let go of that, and I am hoping to make it to the full 30-days soon. In the mean time this book is helping me to develop a belt full of tools to make yelling a little easier to let go. Check it out if you have some of the same issues, or know someone who does. It is indeed a useful tool. Feel free to join the movement and learn more about it here and learn to “yell less, love more”.